I’m still giving my arm a rest, so I have an excuse for writing this post as a blurt rather than trying to make it lengthy and full of argument and example.
I am childless by choice. This is largely because I have no maternal instinct. I have simply never wanted children. I’ve never found this to be a cause for worry, shame or deep self-inquiry. It’s how I am, and I can’t imagine being different.
Still, I’ve had cause this week to wonder whether this aspect of my nature is entirely inborn, or whether I might have been more interested in motherhood if our society did not punish mothers psychologically and economically, and if mothers were not hounded and harassed by morality police of every stripe.
I will never know the answer to that question, and it doesn’t matter to me. I am happy as I am. Nonetheless, it remains that the hypocrisy of a culture which looks askance at intentional childlessness, while treating mothers like shit, deserves the harshest derision.